A few months ago I received a business email from a company that didn't read like a typical business email. The way it was written was very personal. This threw me off as I normally glance at the tons of "spam" I get and toss what needs to be tossed, which more often than not is EVERY ONE OF THEM.
The author begins his writing with an apology for having not reached out in a while. He then put something funny in the email that makes me chuckle and the next thing I know I am reading the entire email. I am intrigued by what he has written and respond. We have a back and forth conversation about business but something in his writing has really piqued my curiosity. I feel like there is more to this guy than business.
During one business conversation I send him a link to one of my stories and that sets off a back and forth between us. It turns out the man, Will Bochkay (pronounced Butch KI), is a writer as well. He tells me he is getting ready to put up his blogging site very shortly. I offer some tips even though I am no expert and not too long after that his site is up and I am reading his stories. We eventually link up via instagram and facebook.
About two weeks ago Will hits me up and says, "Did you see the post on Instagram?" I didn't because honestly I rarely look at my social media until I post a story......or I don't have anything to read when I am in the throne room. I tell him I will check it out asap and the next time I am in the throne room I check the post he linked me to. He linked me to a short clip of him creating a song. The dude is a MUSICIAN as well!!!! What I heard had some smooth Stuart Matthewman, Sweetback vibe to it. He is literally creating songs like what I create.
Fast forward to this weekend. I am at home with the flu. I am sitting on the couch in jeans, jogging pants, three shirts, a hoodie, socks and a blanket and I am freezing. The only thing I can do is watch TV. I said it before and I will say it again, Thank God Andrea bought me a Roku and Bose Noise canceling headphones. I am periodically scrolling Facebook while watching the Barrett Jackson auto auctions showcase these cool Jaguar E-Types when I notice on my feed Will has posted up a new video.
I pop the link and it is a youtube video so I cast it to my Roku to hear it through my headphones. Dude has created a music video for a new song. I am really digging the video and feel Andrea should see it since this is in her area of expertise. The song captivates me.
After the song ends the Roku/Youtube then shows me other video suggestions for Will Bochkay. I didn't know it but dude has three channels on youtube. I start watching his videos and about an hour into the vids I realize I may have met a new brother from a different mother. This guy is quite literally a version of me (or am I version of him). Father issues, Mom working multiple jobs doing the best she can with what she has, low self esteem, shy, had a demon to battle, his list mirrors mine. His escape was/is music and he even lost that at one point. I am sitting here with Will on my flatscreen talking about his family, family business, his personal struggles baring his soul and all I can think is, "THIS GUY IS ME!!!" or to borrow from Snoop Dogg's song "What's My Name" "He is I. I is Him. Slim with the tilted brim."
At one point I pause the video and start telling Andrea about this "dude". I let her listen to the song, and one of his vlogs. She watches but Andrea is an observer. She doesn't do anything trivially. She says, "What is his point of view?" I explain his POV is similar to mine. "It doesn't matter if my stories reach one person or 1 million. I want the stories to help someone." I then tell her HOW I discovered Will and she looks at me, "And you wonder why God puts you in certain places. It is to meet certain people." She then asks, "Why does he inspire you?"
Will inspires me on several levels. This guy has been through hell and back, some of it his doing, most of it simply because he is Will Bochkay and he didn't have a choice. He could have allowed his demons to drag him down....he didn't. He picked himself up and started over. He is now helping run his mom and step dad's company and even started a yoga business. He lost his music but found it again. He loves his family life and is teaching his daughters how a man should love a woman through example. He has questions about why things are and he is not afraid to ask them. He is working on his spirituality. He has goals, dreams, ambitions.
Will Bochkay inspires me because.......it's nice to know that I am not alone in my struggles goals, dreams ambitions. I know that there is someone out there who has almost the exact same story as me and honestly, sometimes in order to be an inspiration you need inspiration.